Quotes About Narcissistic Abuse That Hit Hard
Narcissistic people prey upon people who are the most sensitive and empathetic people. Narcissistic abuse never starts out as abuse. It’s a slow trickle of adoration and caring mixed with episodes of rages, manipulation and control. They put on a facade to charm their way into your lives. But that’s not who they are on the inside!
Narcissistic abuse and people can hurt you physically, verbally, emotionally, sexually, and financially. If you’ve ever experienced this type of abuse is damaging to your life and you find yourself questioning what went wrong and what you did to cause it.
You did nothing! You were just an empathetic target for a narcissist. To help you move forward you need to read these quotes about narcissistic abuse that hit you hard.
Characteristics Of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissistic personality disorder is hard to recognize… At first! Narcissists put on a fake personality facade that mirrors whatever you are looking for in a family member, friends, and intimate partner. They seem charming, smart, caring, and adoring toward you. But as time goes on their true character traits of narcissism will begin to show.
When the cracks begin to show, you’re so deep into the relationship that you stick around, you hang in there hoping they will go back to the sweet and enduring person they once were when you first met.
Narcissists charm their way, first by love bombing you with affection. Then, they begin to slowly manipulate your emotions, thoughts, and eventually actions. The manipulation they have over you then turns to control. Once someone is manipulating you through gaslighting or other manipulation tactics and then controls you, the relationship crosses the line into abuse.
But with narcissists being so good at their craft, how do you recognize the signs of narcissistic personality disorder? Here are the signs you need to look for:
- Feels superior to others believing the normal societal rules do not apply to them
- Lives in a fantasy world believing he or she is successful, brilliant, or powerful
- Needs constant attention (often going into narcissistic rages when ignored)
- A need for control (of other people as well)
- Superficial relationships (only values a relationship if they get something out of it)
- Lacks empathy
- Identity issues with who they are
- They often have feelings of emptiness, boredom, and depression
- Problems with attachment and dependency on others
- Difficulty handling life changes
- Lacks responsibility for their own mistakes
- Does not understand boundaries
- Fears rejection from others
Once your eyes are open to the narcissistic abuse you’ve endured, you cannot unsee it. You can’t continue on with a relationship where your boundaries are disrespected, and your emotions are being manipulated and used against you. A narcissist does not understand other’s feelings due to lack of empathy. Narcissists also do not change and more often than not their partners end up in the never ending cycle of abuse.
If you have been through this type of abuse, know that you are not alone and the damage to your psyche is real. To help you understand and heal, here are relatable quotes about narcissistic abuse you need to read!
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Quotes About Narcissistic Abuse That Hit Hard
Realize that narcissists have an addiction disorder. They are strongly addicted to feeling significant. Like any addict they will do whatever it takes to get this feeling often. That is why they are manipulative and future fakers. They promise change, but can’t deliver if it interferes with their addiction. That is why they secure back up supplyShannon L. Alder
I’m not crazy, I was abused.
I’m not shy, I’m protecting myself.
I’m not bitter, I’m speaking the truth.
I’m not hanging onto the past, I’ve been damaged. I’m not delusional, I lived a nightmare.
I’m not weak, I was trusting.
I’m not giving up, I’m healing.
I’m not incapable of love, I’m giving.
I’m not alone. I see you all here.
I’m fighting thisRene Smith
When we meet and fall into the gravitational pull of a narcissist, we are entering a significant life lesson that involves learning how to create boundaries, self-respect, and resilience. Through trial and error (and a lot of pain), our connection with narcissists teaches us the necessary lessons we need to become mature empathsMateo Sol, Awakened Empath: The Ultimate Guide to Emotional, Psychological and Spiritual Healing
Emotional abuse is designed to undermine another’s sense of self.
It is deliberate humiliation, with the intent to seize control of how others feel about themselvesLorraine Nilon, Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence: A respectful exploration into the ramifications of Paedophilic abuse
Children of narcissists learn that love is abuse. The narcissist teaches them that if someone displeases you, it is okay to harm them and call it loveM. Wakefield, Narcissistic Family Dynamics: Collected Essays
Narcissistic abuse is a form of psycho-emotional abuse that takes place when a pathological narcissist targets another individual and exposes them to trauma. It can also manifest as physical, financial, spiritual and sexual abuseM. Wakefield, Narcissistic Family Dynamics: Collected Essays
We don’t get to choose our family, but we can choose our friends. With courage, we can weed out narcissistic people. We can focus on those who do appreciate us, love us, and treat us with respectDana Arcuri, Sacred Wandering: Growing Your Faith In The Dark
The gears of narcissism propel the dictator and how tempting it is to shift them into overdrive while drunk on power. The genocidal hangover comes laterStewart Stafford
There is life after narcissistic abuse, Hold OnTracy Malone
The truth is a narcissist’s greatest fearTracy Malone
Most of the narcissists are geniuses and masters of Psychology. But they are using their knowledge to eradicate, rather than to help humanityMwanandeke Kindembo, Treatise Upon The Misconceptions of Narcissism
Even the good times were bad. Nostalgia is a trap. When you can look back clearly you will see that even when you had the most amazing experiences the red flags were there. Good times, gifts, anything given by a narcissist was not for you. Only to keep you as narcissistic supplyAlice Little, Narcissistic Abuse Truths
Beware of narcissistic people. They’ll tell everyone you’re crazy, only to cover up their trickeryMitta Xinindlu
Narcissistic masks are dangerous because they have no flaws. The role was defined by your own imagination and carefully orchestrated to trap youTracy A. Malone
During the discard phase the ignoring and silences that the narcissist uses and the cold hateful stares send coldness to your very spirit. Fire turns to ice, love to hate, attention to abandonment. It stays with you that malignant crueltyAlice Little, Narcissistic Abuse Truths
Narcissists withhold affection to punish you. Withhold attention to get revenge. And withhold an emotional empathetic response to make you feel insecureAlice Little, Narcissistic Abuse Truths
If I could give the most concise and accurate definition of a narcissist, it would be this: “a person with severe inferiority complex which has mutated in equally severe superiority complexTyara Wolf
False guilt is feeling guilty when one is not actually guilty. Genuine guilt is a result of wrongdoing. It is appropriate to feel guilty if we had done something wrong. However, false guilt is rooted in deception, denial, and dysfunction. It is directly connected to our destructive and codependent relationship with a narcissistDana Arcuri, Certified Trauma Recovery Coach, Soul Rescue: How to Break Free From Narcissistic Abuse & Heal Trauma
You can teach a narcissist to show up on time, but you can’t train them to listen once they get thereDr. Ramani Durvasula
Babies cry to get their needs met. Narcissists are great actors and often use tears as a tool of manipulations, this is an abuse tactic! Do not allow them to let this work as guilt, they are acting!Tracy Malone
The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up. The phrase “I never feel like I am enough” is the mantra of the person in the narcissistic relationship. That’s because to your narcissistic partner, you are not. No one is. Nothing isDr. Ramani Durvasula
Hate is the complement of fear and narcissists like being feared. It imbues them with an intoxicating sensation of omnipotenceSam Vaknin
When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you didJill Blakeway
Narcissism is voluntary blindness, an agreement not to look beneath the surfaceSam Keen
Relationships with narcissists are held in place by hope of a ‘someday better,’ with little evidence to support it will ever arriveDr. Ramani Durvasula
Sadly, when many individuals realize that the narcissist is insecure and isn’t reassured, they try harder to love this person. Additionally, the narcissist blames his/her behavior on something that you are or aren’t doing, and a hooked person we may try to ‘do it better’ or ‘get it right.’ Your increased efforts to love and fix the narcissist only lines you up for more abuseMelanie Tonia Evans
Relationship with a narcissist in a nutshell: You will go from being the perfect love of their life, to nothing you do is ever good enough. You will give your everything and they will take it all and give you less and less in return. You will end up depleted, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and probably financially, and then get blamed for itBree Bonchay
A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colorsKarla Grimes
How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your egoAmanda Torroni
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